Hey, y’all. It’s Amie.

Friends, my heart is admittedly heavy today. It’s been two years since my dad passed away after a brief battle with cancer—and the timespan, somehow, feels both like a snap of the fingers and four lifetimes all at once.

I’m out of the office today and tomorrow (your newsletters are still coming, don’t worry). And while I haven’t quite decided what I’m going to do with the time, I know I’m doing one thing: I’m eating some vanilla ice cream with chocolate syrup. That was his favorite treat.

So today, do a favor for me, would you? Treat yourself to your favorite snack. I mean it. Whether that’s a bowl of ice cream, some cookies and milk, or a rice cake (looking at you, my husband), it’d really mean a lot to know you’ve taken care of yourself today—because I’m so glad you’re here.

Now let’s get into the news, shall we?

Amie Knowles

Newsletter Editor, Dogwood

Virginia drivers with autism may opt to receive a blue envelope to store important documents needed during a traffic stop. (Erik Witsoe/Unsplash)

Virginia’s Blue Envelope Program bridges gap between drivers with autism and police

By Amie Knowles

Virginia drivers diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) have a helpful option through the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV): The Blue Envelope Program.

Drivers, caregivers, or guardians may request the color coded envelope to store important documents needed during a traffic stop. This not only ensures the driver has the necessary documentation in one central location, but also alerts law enforcement that the person behind the wheel may communicate differently.

According to the DMV’s website, “This initiative aims to foster safer and more comfortable interactions between drivers and law enforcement officers.”

Participation in the Blue Envelope Program is free, voluntary, and confidential. Drivers do not need to show diagnosis documentation to receive an envelope.

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Welcome to our weekly advice column, courtesy of Grace: She’s the big sister who shares her own mistakes so you can avoid making them, the coworker who builds you up to ask for the raise you deserve, and the friend who is always happy to listen.

We all need someone like Grace in our corner. Submit your own questions here.

How do parents of young kids find the time and privacy to be intimate?

Dear Grace,

I married my hot husband two years ago. I have a 4-year-old son that is very active. I can’t make a move without my son being right next to me. My husband and I barely get any alone time together because of my son. I love my son, but I want time to be intimate!

How can I schedule some alone time with my hot husband?

— Unfortunately Abstinent in Arkansas

Dear Abstinent,

First, let me say this loud and clear: your feelings are valid, and you are allowed to want private time—even as a mom! Wanting intimacy with your husband (especially such a hot one!) is normal and healthy. You deserve connection and fulfillment outside of your role as “mom.” So take a deep breath and let go of any guilt you might be carrying around about this.

Now, let’s be real—finding time and privacy when you have a very active 4-year-old is really difficult, and what you’re experiencing is completely normal. I remember going through this myself! The house was always full of noise, little hands, and little eyes. But I promise you: it does get easier! Here are concrete steps you can take to reclaim some of that alone time…

Read Grace’s response

Last summer, we accidentally stumbled upon a house for sale in the country. Built in 1930, it’d never had a noticeable upgrade—no electricity, no running water, and all the charm you’d hope to find in 1,000 square feet. For the first time ever, we seriously considered the possibility of a blank slate.

That home recently sold (not to us) for $65,000. Ultimately, staying right where we’ve been for the past 10 years was the right choice, but moving had its perks: a tax rate half of what we currently pay and four-times the land we currently own.

Have you considered moving recently—and if so, what are some of the reasons? Write to me at amie@couriernewsroom.com and let me know.

Join the conversation

By Ava Edwards

Want to get politically engaged this week? The commonwealth is full of opportunity.

✅ (April 27) Indivisible: Peninsula Mobilize Monday in Hampton from 4:30 – 5:30 p.m.

✅ (April 28) Spotsylvania County Democratic Committee: Board of Supervisors Meeting in Spotsylvania from 5 – 9 p.m.

✅ (April 28) Stop Taking Our Health Care: Virginia Beach Event in Virginia Beach from 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.

Have an event to add? Email State Organizing Coordinator Ava Edwards at ava@couriernewsroom.com with details. Please send details at least one week before the event.

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Thanks for reading. This newsletter was written by Amie Knowles. Amie is a lifelong Virginia resident and mom to a fantastic 8-year-old who loves Pokémon. This edition includes stories from Galvanize Together and Ava Edwards. It was edited by Brook Bolen.

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