Dear Grace,
I am struggling with a recent breakup that honestly feels more like a limb removal. We were together for 10-15 years on and off. There was a lot of trauma and immaturity on both sides. I will say I know I made it worse with some decisions I made when I was falling into addiction.
Now I’m sober and healing, and as part of that healing, I ended this relationship. He was the man I thought I would marry and have a family with, so now I’m left trying to figure out who I am without him. I’m trying to stay positive to move forward in this beautiful life that God has blessed me with. Any advice?
— Trying To Move On and Heal, West Palm Beach
Dear Trying To Move On and Heal,
First off—I want to say how proud I am of you. Getting sober is not easy. It takes guts to admit you have a problem and even more strength to do something about it. Many of us have loved someone who struggled with addiction—or have been there ourselves. You are not alone. And just by writing this letter, it’s clear you are already doing the hard work of healing.
Heartbreak is one of the most difficult things we go through. When you love someone and picture a future with them, letting go can feel like losing a part of yourself. Here’s my advice, I hope it helps you take the next step forward…
